On March 17th, I attended the 2012 Hearts at Home Conference in Normal, Illinois. The fist speakers of the day were reality TV stars Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar. As I listened to the famous couple talk about the circumstances that led up to their series, “19 Kids and Counting,” two words came up so frequently in their conversation that I felt compelled to make them the cornerstone—and title—of mine as I learned how:
- God told Jim Bob to run for a seat on the US Senate so that …
- a photographer could take his family’s picture when they showed up at the polls so that …
- the New York Times would buy the photo and write about the large family from Arkansas who supported their father on election day.
Sometimes you have to let go of something good to make room for something great. Jim Bob had to lose his race for US Senate so that he could say “yes” to a documentary and the television series that followed. It’s a lesson that inspired me to create my latest (and shortest) parenting rhyme as I concluded that every “drat” has a “so that.”
It’s hard to understand in our darkest moments that God’s hand will one day be removed to let in the light, but it does happen when we lean on verses like Romans 8:28 and Isaiah 43:19.
I’ve had a lot of “so that’s” in my life. One of the most memorable occurred in 2010 when:
- my ovaries stopped producing estrogen so that …
- my digestive system would slow to a crawl so that …
- the doctor would schedule a colonoscopy ten years before my first one would normally be due so that …
- the silent killer known as colon cancer could be discovered before it had time to spread.
Hind sight is not just 20/20. It’s a 10-4 that God is at work in our lives. The disciples realized this first hand when:
- God sent his son to die on a cross for our sins so that …
- all who believe in him will have eternal life so that …
- we are free to serve God, not out of obligation, but in celebration of what Jesus did to save our lives.
This wasn’t what the apostles had asked for. They were looking for someone to save them from the Romans, not themselves.
I read once that the purpose of prayer is not to tell God what we want from Him, but to teach us about what He requires of us. Jim Bob knew this when, on the heels of defeat, He prayed for insight into what God would have him do next with his life. Our challenge is the same as we ask, not for our will to be done, but to understand His and trust that when things don’t turn out the way we hoped they would, God can use bad for good.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.
A subscriber recently e-mailed me to ask if I had any tips on managing contacts. Since this is a question that others may have, I’m also sharing this information with you.
For over ten years, I stored my contacts in Microsoft Outlook because they synced to whatever smart phone I had at the time and worked with Outlook’s mail program so I never had to look up an address. It was also easy to locate and backup the file that the contact information was stored in (making it simple to transfer information to a new computer whenever I upgraded).
After making the switch to a Macbook Pro last June (which I don’t regret), it took a lot of trial and error to figure out what to do because the contact and calendar information in Office 2011 (which is the version that Microsoft created to run on a Mac) had major syncing issues with my iPhone.
I ended up transferring all of my contacts to the address book that came with my Mac. It syncs well to my iPhone and solved the problem.
To fix the calendar problem, I uploaded my appointments to google calendar and set my iPhone up so that whatever I add to my google calendar appears on my phone and vice versa.
I am a firm believer in Romans 8:28, which assures us that all experiences—even bad ones—can be used for good if we learn from what we live through. With this in mind, I offer up the following lessons learned:
- Office 2011’s version of Outlook on the Mac is not worth the effort it takes to set it up.
- If I hadn’t had problems syncing Outlook’s calendar to my phone, I never would have discovered how easy Google calendar is to use (or enjoyed the benefits of having access to my calendar from another computer when I accidentally spilled water on mine). I especially like how easy Google’s calendar is to schedule an event and invite others (even if they use a different calendar program to keep track of appointments).
- My final lesson learned is actually a rhyme that I use to remember the message behind Romans 8:28: If things don’t turn out the way you think they should, trust God to use bad for good.
That’s all for my first technology update. If you have a calendar or contact solution that works well for you, feel free to add a comment to this post so that everyone can benefit from your experience. For help with automating your appointments and address book or syncing them with an iPhone, my coaching business is up and running (website coming soon) and I would be happy to work with you on this and any other area of your life that needs an upgrade.
Your progress is my passion and I can’t think of a better calling than encouraging my readers to stop settling and start living a no limits life today.